Block Your Haters! - 5 Simple Tips to Get Over Your Haters
No matter how well you're doing, you just can't seem to get everyone on your side. There's always a Debbie Downer looming around the corner, a Negative Nancy ready to rain on your parade or a Pessimistic Patty with a few less-than kind words at her disposal. Now trust me, I'm not by any means new to Haters and their 'Haterade', but there's only so much a person can take! If you've got haters in your vicinity and are having a tough time finding the right way to deal with them, well you've come to the right place!
You can handle your haters by following these simple tips–
1. Knowing who you are:
Out of all the people you'll ever come in-contact with, you spend the most time with yourself, so shouldn't you enjoy your own company? Become acquainted with who you are and what you stand for, as this will better your understanding of yourself and help mold the foundation to which you can properly defend against all those haters out there! Also, identify your standards and abide by them as this will help secure a firm grip on your reality.
2. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people:
Probably a no-brainer but, the best way to handle your haters is to eliminate them! Don't allow someone the honor of being around you if they don't have your best interest at heart. Trust me, the right people (those who are meant to be a part of your life) will support your endeavors, raise your spirits and rejoice in your victories.
3. Set achievable short/long term goals:
Setting goals for yourself is not only a good way to keep yourself productive, but it also plays a hand in how satisfied you are with your life. It's been shown that those who set goals (both long or short-term) and consequently achieve them, have a fuller and more positive outlook on life. You'll see that constructing and reaching your goals will add a sense of purpose to your life and will really help center yourself around al that works for you which will ultimately eliminate all that doesn't.
4. Love yourself:
Be your own biggest fan! Need a point of reference? Love yourself as much as Kanye loves Kanye. In all seriousness, learn to love and accept your strengths as well as your weaknesses. Give credit where credit is due;there's nothing wrong with patting yourself on the back after a personal achievement
5. Keep in mind that you don't live for anyone elses approval but your own:
Once you stop living for other people, you'll see that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Not having a bar set to an unachievable height will greatly reduce your stress levels, but keep in mind that this doesn't mean not to set your own bar high, just means your point of reference should be nobody but yourself.
Follow these steps and you'll see that you will gradually grow apart from the Negative Nancy's of the world and a new breed of Uplifting Ursula's (I gave it my best shot) will gravitate to you. Also, don't impose yourself on a Hater, after all a Hater's job is to Hate, so let them do their job! If you happen to notice that people are slowly drifting away, don't feel discouraged Keep these tips in mind next time you're feeling overwhelmed or defeated by a hater and remember that people in this world aren't against you, they're simply for themselves.
Emotional Mojo Show Recap: Additional Tips
What are “haters?” People that are:
· In pursuit of what you have or want what you have
· Green eyed monsters
· Unsatisfied with their own lives
How to Block the Haters:
-Kill ‘em with kindness
- Laugh at them
-Surround yourself with POSITIVE people
One thing to do today: ENLIST an accountability partner to discuss the haters and choose to IGNORE them!
Authors: Jada Jackson LMHC and Ricardo Mojo, Intern