How To Get The Most Out Of Your Relationships
When two people come together, whether it be romantically or casually, it adds a completely different dynamic to the lives of both parties. This 'shift' in each other's reality, comes simply from having the other play a more intimate role in their life. Caring, compassion and altruism take over and for the most part, we survive. But what about for those of us who have a tough time keeping relationships with others? The following are some tips on how to make the most out of all your relationships present and future:
Start By Making Your Happiness A Priority:
Take time to identify what you're truly passionate about (it can be yoga, music, running etc) and do it. You'll see that you will start to look at life a little lighter and that will show itself through your personality. You'll start to attract others who are also enjoying what their doing by doing what they enjoy.
Start Being Yourself, Genuinely and Proudly
Embrace and love yourself, flaws and all. It's easier said than done, but once you choose to stop trying to be someone else and start being yourself, life seems to get a whole lot less complicated. You start building self confidence, which shows itself, thus attracting other confident, optimistic and happy people. When you quit worrying about what others are bringing to the table, you can better focus on what you can bring, instead.
Start Entering Relationships For The Right Reasons
Seek honest and dependable people who reflect the person you are and want to be. People who you can admire and who reciprocate your own kindness and commitment. After all, if you're going into a relationship for your own selfish reasons, what then would convince you that it would work?
Pay Attention To What Others Do
It's been said time and time again that actions speak louder than words and its true! While people might not always TELL you how they feel about you, they'll always SHOW you. Pay attention.
Start Cheering For Others Victories
Everyone appreciates a little admiration and a little celebration. Take time to congratulate someone on an achievement or to celebrate with them. It'll help strengthen the bond you two share and allow for plenty of good times and laughs.
Forgive Yourself and Others
We're all human and we all make mistakes. Just like you didn't like hearing your parents rag on you when you were a kid, you can imagine it's less tolerable when, as an adult, someone your age does it. Accept what happened and decide to learn from it rather than dwell on what happened.
A lot of these tips are aimed at, well.. you the person reading this, because although we sometimes like to put the blame on others, we can never take responsibilities for others actions. We must always reflect on our own, as those are what define who we are now and help shape who we become. 'Be the change you want to see in the world', as Mahatma Gandhi once said.
Author: Jada Jackson LMHC and Ricardo Mogo (Intern)