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Celebrating Women's History Month | DOWNLOAD Your FREE eBOOK

Are You Faithfully Celebrating Women's History Month? Yes! We celebrate all successful women, but not because they are greater than we are.

“I’m old. I have cellulite. I’m 10 lbs overweight. My husband doesn’t look at me the way he used to. I don’t love him the way I did before. What happened to my life?”

I listened to a friend of mine tell me about how she just didn’t feel like waking up to go to work because she hated life. “This is not the life I planned. I’m successful, but I’m not happy. Nothing makes me happy.”

As we celebrate Women’s History Month in March, I thought it would be interesting to look at the contrast between what women want and what we actually get.

For many years, women have been celebrated during the month of March to highlight their extraordinary contributions to their countries. Both here in the U.S. and internationally, women have left a mark in history that deserves celebration, and this year, the theme for Women’s History Month is "Honoring Trailblazing Women in Labor and Business.”

As a businesswoman, I am very much aware of the challenges that threaten success. The greatest struggles that kept me from wanting to get out of bed, like my friend, were financial challenges, uncertainty, lack of confidence, strong competitors, and my inability to find “loyal” staff members. All of the areas were extremely challenging, however, the greatest struggle I had was establishing work/life balance consistently.

Day after Day, I work with women who feel unworthy, devalued, uncelebrated, and insecure. Interestingly enough, if you walked past one of them on the street, you would never know that they’ve thrown in the towel on happiness, contentment, and peace. Why? Because she looks amazing! She drives a luxury car (or something close to it). Her makeup is flawless. Her children are adorable and well dressed. She works hard. People love her. She is successful. She is all that; but, she’s dying inside. I just described the clients that I work with, but I also described me. My passion to help others came from a long, hard look in the mirror. When each of us looks into the mirror we should see one thing: HUMANITY. We are all HUMAN. This means that we all struggle. We all have insecurities. We all want to be loved. We all want to be valued. We all want success.

 

Are You Faithfully Celebrating This Month?

We Celebrate Successful Women; But, Not Because They’re Greater Than Us.

 

This month, we celebrate Women’s History in the United States…but many women harbor deep pain and problems.

Beneath the passion, behind all of the great success we find ourselves also motivated by a deep, painful guilt I, myself, know a great deal about. You may even question the importance of celebrating someone's life that doesn't quite model yours. Maybe women's history means nothing to you.

Well, it really doesn’t matter if you’re in the beginning phase of history making or not. False comparisons are made when you’ve no personal success as a point of reference.  

When March comes around, we ironically invite “the comparison trip” into our heads. Guilt floods in when you want the success that you find in another person.

Don’t feel embarrassed by it. This particular battle is a hard one to fight. And maybe it’s not just during the month of March, maybe it every month of the year that you struggle with illegitimate comparisons to your friends, coworkers, societal icons, or your sister.

 

- There’s Only One Way To Being You

 

Wherever you are; no matter how you’re going to “get there,” you’re not fulfilled until you arrive at your destination. The truth is, I don’t have a remedy or cure for the guilt you deal with.

I do, however, have a solution to enable you to walk the happy road to being you. The manifestation of who you are means you’ll be celebrated this month. There’s no need to wait.

I’m calling it my “positive step approach.” Instead of working on your guilt trip, I’m going to work on your final destination. This isn’t the place you’re at, at the moment.

Let me take you on the journey to become you! This is the same journey that the women we celebrate this month took to ultimate success. It was never an overnight success, and I won’t make it one for you. The journey ahead is a serious commitment that you have to make to achieve your personal goals.

-----------Once you’re in the rightful place, there will be no one else to compare with.

To do that for you, I’m releasing my book for free this month. At the cost of nothing, it’s put directly into your hands. Your final commitment, to end the guilt, is to read it. I’ve never given something so valuable away for free.

I Will Not Put A Price Tag On What’s Rightfully Yours. I can only do it during this month.

You have an entire celebration to go through. And we’re now walking you past the emptiness, anxiety and void. Embrace the fullness that’s yours.

Do it now. Open your copy, and discover how powerful success becomes when you become you. We’re ready to celebrate Women’s History Month, but this time it’s for you to make YOUR MARK and success this time. I know…you already have it in you!

- J.J.

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Block Your Haters! - 5 Simple Tips to Get Over Your Haters

Block Your Haters! - 5 Simple Tips to Get Over Your Haters

No matter how well you're doing, you just can't seem to get everyone on your side. There's always a Debbie Downer looming around the corner, a Negative Nancy ready to rain on your parade or a Pessimistic Patty with a few less-than kind words at her disposal. Now trust me, I'm not by any means new to Haters and their 'Haterade', but there's only so much a person can take! If you've got haters in your vicinity and are having a tough time finding the right way to deal with them, well you've come to the right place!

You can handle your haters by following these simple tips–

1. Knowing who you are:

Out of all the people you'll ever come in-contact with, you spend the most time with yourself, so shouldn't you enjoy your own company? Become acquainted with who you are and what you stand for, as this will better your understanding of yourself and help mold the foundation to which you can properly defend against all those haters out there! Also, identify your standards and abide by them as this will help secure a firm grip on your reality.

2. Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people:

Probably a no-brainer but, the best way to handle your haters is to eliminate them! Don't allow someone the honor of being around you if they don't have your best interest at heart. Trust me, the right people (those who are meant to be a part of your life) will support your endeavors, raise your spirits and rejoice in your victories.

3. Set achievable short/long term goals:

Setting goals for yourself is not only a good way to keep yourself productive, but it also plays a hand in how satisfied you are with your life. It's been shown that those who set goals (both long or short-term) and consequently achieve them, have a fuller and more positive outlook on life. You'll see that constructing and reaching your goals will add a sense of purpose to your life and will really help center yourself around al that works for you which will ultimately eliminate all that doesn't.

4. Love yourself:

Be your own biggest fan! Need a point of reference? Love yourself as much as Kanye loves Kanye. In all seriousness, learn to love and accept your strengths as well as your weaknesses. Give credit where credit is due;there's nothing wrong with patting yourself on the back after a personal achievement

5. Keep in mind that you don't live for anyone elses approval but your own:

Once you stop living for other people, you'll see that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Not having a bar set to an unachievable height will greatly reduce your stress levels, but keep in mind that this doesn't mean not to set your own bar high, just means your point of reference should be nobody but yourself.

Follow these steps and you'll see that you will gradually grow apart from the Negative Nancy's of the world and a new breed of Uplifting Ursula's (I gave it my best shot) will gravitate to you. Also, don't impose yourself on a Hater, after all a Hater's job is to Hate, so let them do their job! If you happen to notice that people are slowly drifting away, don't feel discouraged Keep these tips in mind next time you're feeling overwhelmed or defeated by a hater and remember that people in this world aren't against you, they're simply for themselves.

 

Emotional Mojo Show Recap: Additional Tips

What are “haters?” People that are:

·      Critical

·      Negative

·      Destructive

·      In pursuit of what you have or want what you have

·      Green eyed monsters

·      Unsatisfied with their own lives

·      Miserable

 

How to Block the Haters:

-Kill ‘em with kindness

- Laugh at them 

 -Ignore them

-BLOCK them

-Surround yourself with POSITIVE people

One thing to do today: ENLIST an accountability partner to discuss the haters and choose to IGNORE them!


Authors: Jada Jackson LMHC and Ricardo Mojo, Intern

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